I have been serving women and couples walking through betrayal recovery since 2017 when I joined New Life Ministries network of Counselors through online and weekend intensives.
I have since seen hundreds of couples and thousands of women through in-person & online, groups, weekend retreats, intensives, & individual coaching & therapy services.
I had found that women were frustrated with the limitations of therapeutic help for betrayal, and week after week I hear of "treatment induced trauma/harm" being done by therapists (individual or couples) who were using approaches that were not betrayal-trauma informed.
I have heard horror stories of things that my clients have experienced in the offices of pastors or therapists, such "you need to just forgive and move on", "what part of this problem do you play", asking "were you not having enough physical intimacy?", saying "well at least it wasn't____", or "Well he stopped acting out, so you need to work on trust now"!
Those are just a few things I have heard from my clients!
So I invested a year into getting training with APSATS to be sure that I was providing partner/trauma-sensitive care to the clients I work with so that i am NOT another therapist to add to the pain.
Through my work with New Life and then Redemptive Living for Women, I started seeing more and more couples, and have found it very rewarding to help couples move from Discovery ("D Day") to Full -Disclosure to Grieving & Repairing.
As a clinical therapist, I am able to diagnose, and treat symptoms of betrayal trauma.
In the case of Betrayal, "Safety" is always the first goal for the couple (Emotional, Physical, spiritual, Financial, etc).
To establish safety it is nearly always my recommendation for the Couple to work through a Therapeutic Full Disclosure. Trust and Honesty is at the CORE of Safety.
Both parties need to be committed to the marriage before working on "attachment" goals.
I will not do marriage/couples counseling if there is an active affair occurring that the partner is not willing to give up. In that case I would recommend individual work first.
I do have a NO SECRET policy in couples work.
After the Full-Disclosure is done, then we work on mourning/grieving what was lost, and couple-centered recovery work.
My license as a Clinical Social Worker, which allows me to practice independently in PA as a therapist, I do regularly have Clinical supervision and Consultations with other professionals as needed in my practice to provide ethical, effective therapy approaches.
Post Graduate work is where I have received more experience and training in working with couples through Continuing Education Courses, including using EMDR for Couples, Gottman trainings, and other experiences throughout my career.
I have been trained by APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addiction & Trauma Specialists) and hold a CCPS Certification (Certified Clinical Partner Specialist)
I have also been trained under the teachings of Milan and Kay Yerkovich in the How We Love Book/Curriculum, which is based on Attachment Theory, which I incorporate often into my clinical work.
I also was trained in Prepare- Enrich, a marriage based program that is evidenced-based and uses a detailed assessment for strengths & needs of couples.
Couples sessions are generally 50-60 minutes long. It is my experience that 90 minute sessions are best with Couples, especially if there is high conflict.
It is very difficult at times to get through a session in only 50-60 minutes, so if 90 minute sessions are within your budget and scheduling availability, I recommend it.
An alternative option is to schedule a Couples Intensive which can be discussed if you are interested.
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Therapy is necessary for people who have a mental health condition, have symptoms, & need treatment. Your reaction to a betrayal is not necessarily a mental health condition that needs therapy. I am Professional Coach & a Licensed Therapist, I offer both services, I just can't be BOTH to you. I can be your therapist OR your coach. If we start in Coaching, & you need therapy, I would need to refer you to a therapist for treatment. If we start in therapy, we need to stay in therapy until treatment goals are met. Coaching is less formal with no diagnoses, not treatment plan. Still unsure?